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Sunday, August 31, 2008

生气

倔强,
比喻性格顽固,不随和。

人云亦云,
别人怎么说或做,自己也跟着一样做,形容没有独立见解,没有主见。

钻牛角尖
,
比喻把精力用在根本无法解决的难题上。

生气,
只是那别人的过错, 来惩罚自己。



有些时候,不知道为怎么很多人喜欢人云亦云,
盲目的跟从前人做过的事,没想过前人做过的事,
是对或是错。

对的事,跟着做没关系,
但,错的事,也要跟着做吗?

就应为我倔强的脾气,
把我,弄得乌烟瘴气。

我知道,有些事,是无法改变的。
但,我还是钻牛角尖,想方设法,要把难题解决。

到最后,我生气了。

生气,我自己。
为什么,把自己弄得那么生气,
也把周围的人搞得不开心。

Jazs.吟


Friday, August 29, 2008

Cute Breakfast



Jazs.吟

Smart or Stoopid test


i'm so stupid..lol~!!
Try it here.....

Jazs.吟

Thursday, August 28, 2008

娛樂百分百 20080825 曹格粉絲聽證會 PART 1

Listen to gary's voice..
super funnie~!!

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Past week

The lab has been at freezing tempreature..
coz there is only 3 of us in one lab..
i need the bii brand heater..

zZzZ...
nx week will be another batch of FYP students coming in ba..
hope they are as guai as the previous batch =)

working..
headache with my work..might need to redo..OMG..

2 more weeks bii will be POP-ing..
cant wait for that day to arrive..
den i dont need to worry that much..

bii is turning to the angel side..
leaving the devil side.. LOL~!
thank you for that~!
hope you dont turn back to the devil side oh~~>.<


Jazs.吟

Monday, August 25, 2008

Enjoyable Weekend with bii

Went to vivo with bii..

Watched meet dave..
expected it to be more laugh-able..
story is lame though..
"What on Neil is that??"


Rating: ^^VVVv


Know what? there is this F1 display at vivo..
although is not the "real" racecar..
but better than nothing la hor..



After the movie..
Its our dinner time~!!
Went to some 小吃店@heartland..
den da bao our favourite fried oyster~!!

Very yummy..
crispy crispy but oily oily..
rating: ^^VVVVv
if it can be less oily..it would deserved 5twists..

After some un-happy times..
i finally see some light of happiness..

Thankz bii.. for putting in the effort..
i really appriciate it alot..^^v



Lets remain happy happy..
dont quarrel le la..
my dark eye rings is getting more n more jia liat know..
Jazs.吟


北京奥运闭幕典礼

2008 北京奥运在昨晚在众人的瞩目中,画下了完美的休止符。
当奥运圣火熄灭的那一瞬间,我想起了我已故的外公。



还记得开幕的时候,我对我妈说了这么一句话,
“真可惜,外公看不到,中国应以为豪的这一刻”


我妈说了,
“外公有看到啊,他就在中国看”

中国的奥运开幕典礼,是多么的宏伟而壮观, 让全世界看傻了眼。
让2012年,伦敦这位主办国,大伤脑筋。
如果,外公还在世的话,他一定会感到自豪。

我突然好想念外公。
眼泪不受控制的留了出来。。。


Jazs.吟

Friday, August 22, 2008

Depleting Emotional Bank Account

The Emotional Bank Account is a metaphor,
describing relationships and the P/PC (Production versus building Production Capacity)
balance for interdependence.
It describes how trust is built on a relationship, between friends,families and love one.


Positive behaviors are deposits building a reserve.
Negative behaviors are withdrawals.

A high reserve balance results in higher tolerance for our mistakes
and more open communication.

There are six major deposits we can make to the emotional bank account:

Understanding the individual.
An individual's values determine what actions will result in a deposit
or a withdrawal for that individual.

To build a relationship, you must learn what is important to the other person
and make it as important to you as the other person is to you.
Understand others deeply as individuals and then treat them in terms of that understanding.

Attend to the little things, which are the big things in relationships.


Keep commitments. Breaking a promise is a major withdrawal.


Clarify expectations.
The cause of almost all relationship difficulties is rooted in ambiguous,
conflicting expectations around roles and goals.
Making an investment of time and effort up front saves time,
effort and a major withdrawal later.


Show personal integrity.
A lack of integrity can undermine almost any effort to create a high trust reserve.
Honesty requires conforming our words to reality.
Integrity requires conforming reality to our words,
keeping promises and fulfilling expectations.

The key to the many is the one,
especially the one that tests the patience and good humor of the many.
How you treat the one reveals how you regard the many, because everyone is ultimately a one.


Apologize sincerely
when you make a withdrawal.
Sincere apologies are deposits, but repeated apologies are interpreted as insincere,
resulting in withdrawals.

Source Taken From:7 Habits Of Highly Effective People


I feel that my emotional bank account is depleting in a rapid rate..
This is what serying shared with me, after she went for a course..
I feel that this is very useful,thus sharing it will people who are reading my blog..

For those who are already doing it.. Good!!
For those who are withdrawing..and not depositing..
its time to deposit back before the account really depletes..

Jazs.吟

Dinner

Went for a dinner session with colleagues @ Marina Square's Changing Appitites..

They started to walk into almost every shop upon reaching Marina Square..

I had a hard time..cause my foot was pain..
coz of the stupid tight shoe..
so i ended up waiting outside the shop..
no mood to see anything coz of the pain..sianx...

well..we had our dinner there and the food was good..
i couldnt finish mine..
as usual..Kaiyi finished the food.. =)

Went to SkinFood to get the facial foam i wanted to get ages ago..finnally~!!
Everyone of us got something..





A fruitful trips of pictures i would say =)

and..oh ya..Kai bought the rum and rasins ice cream..
it's rum-ming good~! lolx..
the rum taste was rich..yum yum..

i'll try it next time i get my foot to marina~!

Jazs.吟

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Love and Life

My husband is an engineer by profession.
I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling
when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage,
I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it.
The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive
when it comes to a relationship and my feelings.
I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy.

My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity,
and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage
has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought.
My feeling of disappointment only increased.
Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament,
so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality,
and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question.... If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind."

Here goes the question:

" Let's say; I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...."

My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you,
but .... please allow me to explain the reasons further....."


This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs,
and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers
so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind,
thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love travelling but always lose your way in a new city.
I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month.
I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism.
I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes.
I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old,
I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs.
So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach,
as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...

and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do...
I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting ...
and as I continue reading...

"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied,
please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favourite bread and fresh milk..."

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face,
clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does,
and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE.

When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away,
and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms.
It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands ...

AND THAT'S LIFE The happiest people in the world...
are not those who have no problems,
but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.

LOVE is not just between two lovers, husband and wife
--it also encompasses mother, father and siblings, sisters and brothers, friends and neighbours!


--source taken from flowerpod.com.sg, relationship talk--


I Love You,Bii..


Jazs.吟
 
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